To be happy is allowed. For women

Illustrator Tatyana Bukharina

Proofreader Nina Terebkova

Editor Natalia Shaverina

© Tatyana Lozhkina, 2020

© Tatyana Bukharina, illustrations, 2020

ISBN 978-5-0051-3392-2

Created with Ridero smart publishing system

Summary

What can make a woman so attractive sometimes? What magic keeps her eye shining so brightly? The answer is definitely happiness, which fills your heart and soul. A happy woman emits beauty despite her age!

I’d like you to read this book till the end. Here I’m sharing with you some simple but effective techniques to discover your femininity and open your heart to the world. I’ve already experienced all these methods by myself, and I’m still using many of them. They helped me to increase my female inner strength and to build a close-knit family. So, now I’m peaceful and filled up with happiness! And I want to share with you some “recipes” how to achieve this.

Good luck, my dear ones!

Preface

First of all, I am a happy woman, a wife and a mother of two curious, cheerful girls. The idea to write a book came to me when I was at school. It’s been long since then. And now I’m 40. Perhaps, that’s a kind of new frontier that opens up new verges of your life. “A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them.“And a time to write books!

I’ve passed a long way in my life, just like everyone: kindergarten, school and two universities. Later, I’ve been soaked in a self-development and self- knowledge techniques. As a result, I’ve learned how to build a family, to accept myself and to love my inner child.

Now I do what I want and like. I give online and face-to-face yoga classes for adults and children and write books. I am really grateful for my husband’s support in everything I do. My parents also understand and approve the way I’ve chosen. As we usually say in Russia: “I give them a low bow”!

Honestly, I like being a woman. Yes, a Woman with the capital letter “W”. I like to practice yoga and share my knowledge and experience with others. Especially with women, because I understand them well, at least, I think so. When a woman loves and accepts herself as she is, she understands other people easier.

I like communication and I believe that every person is interesting and is able to bring something new to your life. It is said: “No one is a friend, no one is an enemy – everyone is a teacher.” It’s true to some extent. Every person illustrates his attitude towards you through his behavior, somehow he “mirrors” our inner state and mood.

I have friends and I am so grateful for their support and kindness. But, of course, my best friend is my beloved husband.

Girls were taught and are still taught to achieve something (set aims, solve problems, come across with life difficulties). This is how our grandmothers and mothers lived. Previously, there were difficult times when you had to survive: the war, “perestroika”, “dashing 90s”.

The same with me, I have been going the same path of “reformation” for a long time, and even now I sometimes turn to it. Because that’s how we were brought up, how we were taught. I wanted to be a “good” girl for everyone: my parents, friends, neighbors and colleagues.

Now I’ve given it up! You can’t please everyone, that’s just impossible. It’s time to live for yourself, not for others; to live according to your heart wishes, not listening to your head only. Times are different now and we are surrounded by different energies, so it is quite possible. You should trust yourself and your heart.

One more thing which can help you on your way is the ability to smile whatever happens. It always helped me to go through tough times. Life was always full of challenges and it still has a lot of them. The only thing that you change your attitude to problems over times, it won’t press you that much in the future. And, as a result, you are getting more confident. With a smile your perception of life changes to a better way. When you laugh, even if you’ve got some troubles, all of them turn to be smaller and unimportant.

To be honest, sometimes it was not easy for me to smile. I gave up many times, but “the road is made by walking”! I agree with the opinion that everything in our life happens for a reason. Difficulties make us stronger, wiser, and give mental strength. They help you to understand what acceptance and unconditional love are. I suppose, these are two main things that we can and should learn during our lives. That’s what we were born for.

I always liked writing, expressing my ideas on paper. Sometimes it may turn out something interesting, like this book which you are holding in your hands. That’s my first book, it exists in electronic or paper variant. I can say without exaggeration that it is a unique one. I collected here all the most effective techniques that have helped me. Having used them, I felt like I was filled with precious female energy. I am happy to share these life-giving sources with you!

By the way, in the end of the book, you will get a gift: an interesting method how to attract money to your life. I will tell you how to do it easily, without any specific knowledge. After all, it is not easy to become happy without money in the modern world! Maybe just living somewhere in the forest or on a desert island.

These are my channels, profiles in social networks and on YouTube. Join me!

Vkontakte: https://vk.com/tanyalozhkina

Group in Vkontakte: “Yoga for women”: https://vk.com/practiceyogaforwomen

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prenatalyoga_tatyana

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100034940437664&ref=bookmarks

My channel on YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgiXuQ8X_eGnFmtCorZXLiw

My channel on Yandex. Zen:

https://zen.yandex.ru/lozhkina

About the book

In this book, I have collected simple rules that make your life happier and more joyful. I’ve tested all of them on my own experience and I bet they work! The book is a kind of synthesis of what I experienced and all complications I’ve ever come across in my life. I hope this information will be useful and interesting for you.

I started writing this book when my husband and I were having vacation in Thailand. And it was one more exciting adventure in my life. So, it seems to me, that exactly in this state of mind you should write cheerful and easy-to-read texts. I hope that my book will become exactly like that. Cheerfulness gives us strength, desire to move on and to develop yourself. Being an easy-going person helps you to overcome all obstacles and difficulties of life.

Our life is complicated, diverse and absolutely unpredictable. It is hard to guess what will happen tomorrow. So, we can influence our life with the help of our mood and state of mind and even change it in one way or another. But unforeseen events still happen, that’s why a lot of things depend on how we are able to deal with them. I would even say that changing your attitude towards things, you will change circumstances you are surrounded by.

Many things in life depend only on us. People used to say, “God helps those who help yourself.” A person either starts acting somehow, changing the situation or gives it up.

Being a woman is a feeling yourself as a woman, first of all. Therefore, changing her state, a woman can change the reality around her.

I offer you to read my poem about attitude to happiness and life.

Being happy is allowed

Being happy is allowed,

You’d better not to wait for a permission from the outside!

I allow myself to be happy today,

I allow myself to enjoy the life,

I allow myself to enjoy it,

I allow myself to reach out the light,

I allow myself to be the light,

I allow myself to be surprised,

I allow myself to admire

(And even if I admire myself).

I allow myself to show up,

I allow myself to be lost in love,

I allow myself to be loved,

I allow myself to be tender,

I allow myself to be an affection,

I allow myself just to BE,

Expecting nothing in return.

How difficult it can be sometimes,

And everything is because of the fear hidden inside.

Being afraid of not being loved or approved,

Being afraid to be left somewhere behind.

I allow myself to be afraid,

I allow myself to let go this fear,

I let myself wake up,

I let myself fly! And now I’m flying,

I’m flying!

I let go everything that was before

I just believe in myself and in life.

Oh, life, how I love you!

Oh, life, I thank you!

Oh, life, I accept you in all your diversity!

And it is really so!

I. Woman is a universe with its distinctive features and beautiful moments of life in it.

Woman is a heart of a family

Have you ever asked yourself who is a woman? She is the one that creates atmosphere almost everywhere. I believe that each family starts with a woman. You can say that she is like Atlantean who holds an incredible weight of responsibilities and duties on her shoulders. Responsibility for children and the internal environment of her home are the crucial ones and she’s the basis of relationships with her husband.

Many things depend on how you treat yourself. Do you want your beloved ones to be happy and successful, prosperous and replete? Then it is better to start with yourself. Trust your heart without paying attention to somebody’s opinions. We can dare to say that you have to love and accept yourself with all your negative and positive sides and imperfections.

How can you learn this? Personally, I was helped by yoga, which I have been practicing for more than 15 years. During the classes all your attention should be transferred inside your inner world and directed to your feelings. Everything that is external and husk should fade away. Over times, problems and difficulties are getting somehow resolved or lose their significance. So that, life is gradually moving into the right direction, naturally and harmoniously.

In addition, I really like simple meditation techniques which I use almost every morning. They help to light up my daily routines. To begin with, you can start with one and repeat it for 21 days at least 3 times a day. Then go to another one and do the same.

These are the following meditations.

1. By the light of my love, I cancel all negative programs towards my father, my beloved man, to all men. I create a new one, which is constructive and developing for relationships with my father, with my beloved, with all men and I show the light of my love.

2. By the light of my love, I cancel every negative program towards my mother, to myself, to all women. I create a new one which is constructive and developing for relationships with myself, with my mother, with all women and I show the light of my love.

These are strong self-oriented meditations that begin and end with the “light of my love” phrase and this light is given to us at birth. Love is always with us, inside and out. Don’t look for it in your family, friends or others but search for it in you.

Try to practice such meditations and they will certainly bring you great relaxation results, will give a feeling of femininity and confidence.

Billions of women live on our mother planet. Nobody’s alike, we are all different. Therefore, there is no a single path for everybody, there’s no equal borders. Only some rough outline helps women to move on.

Every experience of your life is unique and inimitable and life is so special. Don’t despair if you can’t achieve something straightaway. The old saying tells: “In the end things will mend.” Try to stay calm and be wise, then you will definitely learn something useful from today’s life lesson.

I am grateful for I was born a woman. This is a very interesting experience. I am grateful for every woman or man I’ve met in my life.