Flock of sheep
We used to think that the opposite antonym of courage is cowardice, but in reality it is not. This is conformism (change in behavior, opinion of a person, or, in other words, adaptation to the pressure of another person or society, the virtual world in order to agree to defeat, in general, hopelessness). We spend precious years of our lives adapting to the masses, but when we realize that this is a trap, the idea «I can’t do this on my own» takes us away from boundless confidence. It is nonsense to argue that conformism allows you to stop war, resolve conflict, confront challenges and adapt to the social environment. But in fact, conformism is a public imitation (empty imitation), in other words, a «game of imitation.» As we adjust to the crowd, we waste precious time trying to follow them. We do not know how we managed to get into the flock of sheep. What / who makes us blindly follow each other like sheep? Because we want to be like other people. We want what they want. After all, a person is submissive to other people or society. All kinds of false beliefs form a voluntary inner «Slave Consciousness» that voluntarily enslaves us. It’s time to stop thinking like a sheep or any other animal, it’s time to understand that we are different from family members, friends and other people in general (famous, rich), that you cannot be 100% the same as them, and that we have have their own unique features and abilities, and so do they. It’s time to stop blaming yourself and others. Much suffering (insults) can be avoided by not allowing society, the virtual world, to control our lives. And the conscious, inner «Slave Consciousness» voluntarily arrests us and puts us in prison. Our thoughts are copies that reflect all elements of the unconscious (information received), these copies can be positive or negative beliefs and beliefs. Your life is the exact result, the result, the consequence of the work of your mind. Thus, we bring into our life everything, good or bad, happy or sad, successful or unsuccessful, in accordance with our words, thoughts and desires. This applies to all areas – work, marriage (family), health and spiritual life. Think about it! The environment is an external form, results, consequences of the internal work of the mind (brain). Understanding who you are (knowing yourself, life and life after death, the Creator), we can find the answer to the question of how to become not an animal.
You need spiritual strength to be confident
Shakespeare wrote: «We know who we are, but we do not know who we can be.» Does this apply to you? Have you identified your limitations, failures, and mistakes? Or have you stopped thinking about who you can be? The problem is that from an early age you are programmed with false ideas (opinions), values and beliefs that prevent you from seeing your true potential, feeling your uniqueness and realizing it. In fact, your role as a co-author of your own life allows you to change any aspect of it, your attitude towards it. All great mentors have come to the conclusion that no one but you can solve your problems. As the Great Teacher said: «The Kingdom of God is within you, and your duty is to cultivate it, no matter how small it may be.» It is not in distant lands or in heaven. Buddha came to the same conclusion: «Turn on the light of the soul, do not rely on anything and do not seek help from anyone but yourself.» Or the poem «believe in yourself… you will be helped together / your work and mind, taken from both sides», which Abai said, corresponds to this. The power of healing, correction, recovery, improvement is hidden in us. Health, happiness, well-being, development, and peace of mind come when you break the shackles of negative and negative thoughts and feelings. If you do not know your true value, importance, significance, need and do not evaluate yourself fairly, you cannot be completely and infinitely confident. You can be free from limitations only to the extent that you are able to realize your uniqueness, your choice and your level of consciousness.
Who built the skyscraper with their own hands and erected it (if not you)? Decide, environment or you? The Vedas involved parents, family members, relatives, teachers, friends, society and even all of humanity. If you remember, we limit our lives by letting others control us. If you do not stop feeling guilty and do not stop humiliating (discriminating) yourself for brain defects, you will not be able to become one of those who endlessly and fruitfully fight for complete self-confidence and personal freedom. To be truly free, kind, compassionate, loving and caring, you must learn to understand and love yourself. Some parents from childhood told their children: «Love others as yourself», which is a good idea, but it was impossible for us or for anyone else until we learned to adequately (realistically) assess ourselves! Why? Because «selfishness» does not allow. You have high self-esteem and the disease of pride and arrogance, or you have low self-esteem and fear and depression. Only a person who can adequately (truly) evaluate himself can love others as himself.
Think about yourself first
To be a confident person, you must first satisfy your needs. At first glance, this statement may seem selfish (arrogant), but again, we will only be human when we fully understand ourselves. We must first help ourselves: the more you help yourself, the more you help others. This is not misleading, these are truly wise words. Therefore, only by acting appropriately can we benefit our children, friends, colleagues, society and humanity as a whole. You cannot change the world for the better, but you can change yourself. And if you can change yourself for the better, you can change your life in the best way. People change for the better only when a person is in complete control of his life and takes responsibility for his future. It’s time to put your needs first. This is the only way to be truly free. Physical slavery is, of course, a crime. However, the inner, mental, emotional «Bondage of the soul» is much more terrible, because his punishment is a quiet, hopeless life, full of despair.
21-40-100 day technique
You will learn how to make the right choices, make bold decisions and, most importantly, draw up a high-quality plan and schedule, depending on your abilities and flexibility, skill and talent (by industry, profession, goal of your dreams). I will tell you how to plan and schedule correctly, because many people do it wrong.
Let’s take a moment to step backstage and have a look at a simple yet highly effective self-study method. This is called 21-40-100 DAYS. It has been found that it takes at least 21 to a maximum of 100 days to get rid of an old destructive habit and form a new positive habit. It will take you roughly the same amount of time to fully absorb the material presented in this book. I do not want to mislead you. You can understand the book right away, but it is not enough to have an intellectual understanding to motivate yourself and attract the necessary changes. Impulse, surge, surge of emotions and motivation come with a conscious (voluntary) experience. You have to go from a simple concept to a detailed concept (feel). To understand a word, thought or idea, it is necessary to accept them as part of thinking, feeling, acting and reacting (perception). Everything takes time. So do not think that after reading the book, you will understand everything. Keep reading until this information becomes a new habit, because you can only understand the value of a book if you read it over and over again, your intelligence depends on the quality of the books you read, not the quantity. Set aside all the work for a while, pay full attention to the book. The time it takes to change old, negative, destructive habits into new, positive, constructive ones is a small investment compared to the freedom (inner happiness) that you can achieve. If I sometimes exaggerate, it is in order to overcome your stubborn resistance and make you hear and accept the truth.
And when there is false, deceptive happiness (for example, you put on a gold medal), you feel great, and then an inner voice tells you: «Yes, now you know what true happiness is …". At first it seems so, it looks so, but in the end it becomes clear that this is not the meaning of life, wealth, popularity, worldly possessions… because all this is only a temporary achievement of life.
For best results, read the entire book first, familiarize yourself with all of its materials. Then reread the chapters that are important to you and work on yourself, not with anyone else. Allow the described principles and ideals to penetrate as deeply as possible into your mind, but most importantly – as soon as possible put them into practice, so to speak, in real life.
Get out of the wrong self-belief
Everyone is hypnotized to some extent by information received from other people (the environment) or overconfident, perceived thoughts. These thoughts affect our behavior, actions (depending on the skill of the hypnotist in real and virtual life). From childhood, all people inevitably fall into a state of unconscious hypnosis. To make it clear, let me explain what happens to a person during hypnosis. If a perfectly healthy person is convinced that he cannot do something, he cannot do it. Because when faith passes from the conscious to the unconscious (that is, in the heart), a person becomes literally zombified because of this belief. Note, this is not because he did not try to do it. He tries, but he can’t. On the one hand, he tries to act with voluntary consciousness or physical effort. But on the other hand, the belief that «he cannot do this» convinces his unconscious consciousness that it is «impossible.»
In the case of «self-hypnosis» we are engaged in mental and physical forces, that is, we act on the basis of faith. But both voluntary consciousness (mind) and physical abilities (physical strength) of a person are defeated by «unconscious» involuntary consciousness. Another example is the struggle between the unconscious and the will. Then the unconscious always wins! Many people believe that they can only change their lives by their own free will. This is not true! Negative and negative thoughts from the mind harm a person. Despite their willpower, they cannot achieve results without correcting the unconscious part of consciousness.
They unconsciously accepted the lie as a proven fact. All their abilities, good intentions and willpower will be completely useless and even harmful if their faith is wrong. So get out of the outer «belief» or the inner «self-belief.»
I can prove that a person’s possibilities are limitless, because the power of his imagination and consciousness is limitless. In general, the human brain consists of two worlds: the «World of Fantasy» and the «World of Consciousness». In the fantasy world, a person dreams, this is a kind of «internal visualization». And in the world of consciousness, a person thinks this is a kind of «internal affirmations», but in general consciousness is divided into three: «Unconscious» (involuntary), «Reason» (voluntary), «Super Consciousness» or «Highest Consciousness» (involuntary). We will dwell on each of them in the following chapters, starting with the involuntary, the unconscious.